So the real question here is
” how do you stop a snooping, over-opinionated, know-it-all from thinking your business is her business”?
Tell em to bud-out.
Nah! That’ll probably start fight.
I have two go-tos when some pain in the ass starts interrogating me.
(Pardon my a*s, but I really don’t like to be interrogated. Am I in good company?
To be clear, I define an interrogator as someone who challenges my intuitive decisions, questions my knowledge when they don’t have a background in the subject they’re challenging, and/or plays a devil’s advocate ➤ cuz I don’t particularly like the devil butting into my conversations.
To be more clear, pushy interrogators are usually wrong about most of their thoughts and ideas for you!)
Given that… Here’s how you can avoid these types of energies.
1. Run the yellow light and Turn left.
Ever had someone following you in your car, you run the yellow, and turn the corner?
Well, the car following your won’t make the light. While they are held up at the red one ✧ it’ll be 2 minutes before they can get back behind you.
Ah… 2 minutes, just enough time to change the frickn subject with a question.
Instead of answering the interrogators next question, ask a question.
It’s gotta be a good question, one that commands a long winded answer. It’s gotta be personal, cuz folks love to talk about themselves, no problem.
In order for you to for you to find the right question, you’ll need to master
➢ the 5 breath energy bath. (This is number 2)
Take 5 deep slow breaths at exactly the moment you begin to feel your blood boil.
You see, at that time, your energy has begun to get whipped up into the cyclone of the interrogator’s critical judgment and bad -idea bruising.
You need to bathe in the purity of self-trust.
Each breath needs to be slow.
The during the first two breaths, smile like you’re listening – all the while you’re visualizing a place in nature that really makes you feel happy.
During the next two breaths, make a noise. Say ” ahh huh” or ” mmm” or something that shows you’re listening ( you’re not).
During breath 5, when you are deeply relaxed in, let’s say a garden with a bubbling brook and only hearing the dripping water, think of a question – you know, you are about to run the yellow light and turn left!
However, if the interrogator is a professional hit-person, the kind that pressures you for an answer, give one.
3. Give an answer and flee as fast as you can.
I have three answers that help me escape the pro interrogator – but I sometimes need to use these in gentler situations, as well.
Say, ” it’s a long story”
If they say they have time, ↰repeat but add “really” to long story.
Still they have time, then you’d better run the yellow light.
Or say, “wow, what interesting ideas. I’ll think about those.”
Or say, “mmm, I don’t know yet.” No bulls*itting ✜ really.
Always say yet because you actually do know or you intuitively know which means you kinda know ( which is good enough as far as knowing goes) and you need to stick with your very own intuitive knowing because it counts for a LOT.
[You might need a 5 breath energy bath even after way #3. Take the bath.]
What’s most important to remember is ✾
an interrogation is a cyclone of someone else’s judgment and personal criticism
that can harm your self- esteem and zap all your positive energy.
Don’t defend yourself, be yourself.
Trust your self.
Examine your self on your own, often, and if you invite someone to help you,
make sure they are caring, supportive, and honor your highest truths.
Live your truth.
Support one another.
Blowin’ you kisses,
your trainer ☀ michelle bernard
you are fabulous today and every day!