Life isn’t short. For some, it’s long.

letter to mE

Girl, you have fallen’ into some big ole holes, and I know how much it has hurt you.

I know you can barely breathe down there in your pursuit of “all there is”- down there gasping to create a relationship that validates you, unraveling in a job-change you thought would define you (but is attacking your beliefs about humanity), in the arduous pursuit of sustainable health insurance.

all there is

But you will get another opportunity to choose soon. Really.

In about 5 months you won’t need to keep cranberry juice in the fridge for your vodka and you won’t need to workout twice a day to keep your butt from blowing up because of the chocolate chip cookie dough. 10 years younger me

 

Your angry prayers and creative visualization notebooks will move you to a safer ground.

Don’t stop doing that work!

One thing I learned from you is to state my desired outcome like I know for certain it will happen.

 

Especially when I have no idea how IT will happen, still say IT must.

With no alternative.

 

That worked for you.

Thanks for giving me that.

 

Here’s what I wish to give to you, my 10 year younger mE.  

Stamp these in your belly.

1. Stand with your intuition. When you feel you know, you are correct.  You do.

2. Don’t tell everyone all your detailed feelings.

Explain only when you have established trust.  Folks you can trust will hold your feelings sacred instead of using your life as something casual to talk about.

3. Journal often. Try audio when you’re scared to write.

4. Finish writing ThemKids. It’s really good.  

5. Stop fixing people. Oh God girl, I know it’s your nature, but please stop pushing the fix in your private life.  

It will exhaust you and deplete the enthusiasm you need for your beliefs.

Simply, offer advice if you’re asked, but don’t beg anyone to take it.

6. Respect every woman you see. They are precious. You have so much in common. You do.

7. Protect your spiritual center. Let it expand. It will make you magical.

Life isn’t short for everyone.  For some, it’s long.

Life is precious.
What always amazes me is that we get so many chances to be who we want to be.
Regret isn’t necessary.

You are not going to make a bad decision.

So every time you decide something, be as bold as brass.  It all fits somewhere.

Each year, you’ll see, this life gets more and more meaningful,

and you will learn that sometimes

breaking the conventions and “supposed tos”

is what will bring you the most happiness.

now me. michelle bernard

18 ways to sabotage your health and fitness

18 sure ways

to sabatoge your health and fitness program

 

  1. Have constant conversations and make excuses about how hard it is to schedule a workout

  2. Smoke a pack of cigarettes every day
  3. Buy boxed and packaged and bottled diet foods

  4. Eat what everybody else is eating

  5. Keep boxes of cookies and crackers in your cupboard
  6. Workout 7 days a week because you’re trying to lose weight fast

  7. Skip stretching
  8. Skip strength training

  9. Don’t eat all day so you can have space in your stomach for dinner at the restaurant

  10. Weigh yourself every day
  11. Drink alcohol most days nights of the week
  12. Buy a snickers when you’re hungry (or Kit Kat, Ruffles, Doritos…)

  13. Eat 1000 calories or less per day (you might be able to pull this off if you weigh less than 90 pounds already)
  14. Count calories with no regard for the type of food the calories come from

  15. Drink bottled juices

  16. Exercise while exerting absolutely no effort 
  17. Check your cell phone more than 2 times during your workout (parents are generally exempt because emergencies happen. Everybody else…  your fans can wait for at least 45 minutes to talk or text you.  Life need never be that urgent!) 

  18. Skip a workout because someone asks you to

 

 

We become our decisions. 

Decide to live healthy.

 

Get support.

You are worth it!

 

your trainer,

michelle bernard

http://www.sculptedbybernard.com

michelle bernard- bernardism